The Illusion Of Separation

Hell isn’t a place
somewhere in the afterlife
But it’s suffering
here on earth
It’s the deepest soul pain
of what is one
but is perceived as
cut in two
Divine love counterparts
with sea, land
stories and silence
between them
It’s missing you
– my best friend,
my everything –
sensed like a paralyzing,
burning pain
in my body
Hell is the illusion
of separation


Short Circuit

Lay your hand on my forehead
to calm down the aching fire
of a fierce migraine
as my brain short-circuits
every movement,
every thought hurts
Calm it down with your hand
the way only your loving palm
your loving fingers,
your loving heart,
can ease
make it dark before my eyes
and touch me
into a soft, pain free sleep


Such A Cold Night

A night in Spring
can feel like a night in Winter
when it feels so cold
in bed and I shiver
with missing you

And if you were here now
your arms could warm me
your legs could hold
my feet

But you are there,
somewhere far
and instead, you whisper
love into my heart
to keep the flame burning
and to help me to believe
in Spring


When Pixels Lie

Sometimes, when I see you
on the screen
and I look only with my eyes at you
when I forget to look with my heart
everything is painful
as if every pixel is
a thousand miles distance
the ocean between us filled
with tears of missing you


When The Ghosts Of The Night Haunt Me

I am so scared at times
When the ghosts of the night
haunt me
and it is between me and God

When I think of all that I’ve lost
To be without a family
To have nothing to hold on to
but the truth in my heart

And then I can only pray
and I pray for the ones that have
hurt and abused me
I pray for myself, my children
and I pray for you, my love, always
I pray for us

I pray the dark, the fear away
until the light within catches me
the angels, God, you catch me
as I pray myself back into trust


The Image

Her family had made a picture of her
They had depicted her in such ugly words
It broke her heart
And she stood next to the picture
and wanted to tell them
that the one in the image wasn’t her
that she has a good heart
that she has beauty inside
but they only fixated on the picture
and didn’t even notice her
So then she decided to distance
herself from the image
and to walk away from
the ones who took the shot

Instead she looked at the image
that her beloved has of her
in his heart


Since I Miss You

I could miss someone
after a goodbye
I could miss the sun
on a cloudy day
I could miss Summer
when Autumn arrived
I missed loved ones
when they died

But still, I didn’t know
a depth of missing
so raw and painful
as if the other half of me
has been cut off
For I only truly know
what missing is
since I came to miss you


What Survives

You lie on the ground
like dead
– how many times
have you died
like this –
You lift your head
and look around
everything is
as white as paper
Nothing there
Nothing to see
No words
Are these the wide fields
of loneliness?
Your body aches
You hurt
Did you lose everything
Did you lose yourself
and now you’re nothing but
a heap of pain?

But then,
you go to your heart
you feel your beloved
you sense him
and you know
you still have love
you still have all


Dear Mother

I realize, I don’t really know you
as you mostly disappeared
and became invisible

You left me as a new born of only
a few weeks old
You left me to the hands of my father
while you knew they beat me

Later you came back
but only your body returned
Emotionally, you never have been there

You were like the walls of the house
that silently watched and witnessed
all the abuse
but never did anything to protect

Though when he beat you
I immediately jumped in between
to protect you
and begged him to take me instead
You allowed it to happen

As a small child I became your mother
I took your burden on me
and therefore, could never be
a child myself

Also, later in life you didn’t choose me
you couldn’t see me for who I am
and made me feel bad and guilty
when I chose myself, chose my visibility

I give it back to you now,
the burden, the responsibility
of your pain,
of taking care of you,
of protecting you
of making you happy

I free you, I free myself
of my expectations
that you could be a mother for me
I know, you tried your best
you had your own struggles
and you never had a good
example yourself

I wish you the very best
I hope you’ll find your own light
that I have always seen in you
I hope you’ll find the courage
to stand up in life
and become visible for yourself

I love you
I always have and always will
I hope it will free you, free me
as we both go separate ways


Dear Father

I am sorry I was born with you
where you wished
I never had been born
I am sorry for expecting
you to be the father that you couldn’t be
I am sorry for expecting love
that you weren’t able to give me
I let go of any expectations now

You did your best to cope in life
even when for you a way of coping
was using physical
and emotional violence
I know you were in pain yourself
when you attacked me as a child

I know you were in pain
when you attacked me
and my children last Friday
Behind your aggression
I saw the hurt in your eyes

And even after all
Even when the horror happened
and I needed to hand you over
to the police to protect us
I still loved you
I still love you

I wish you well
more than well
I hope the cord between us loosens
and we both will be free
without each other

I never have wanted this
for I ever only wanted love



And I could scream now,
the deep ache
I could smash it into words
and into a poem
Raw love, raw pain

I could scatter it around
I could roar it,
the missing you
I could make my lines
thunder and shake
crawl and howl

But instead,
I hold my cup of coffee
and stare
I hold my breath

And not even my tears
want to come out
to relieve my heart


Keep My Smile Safe

Will you keep my smile safe for me
for I’m afraid to lose it
My laughter, my light dancing steps
Store it carefully in your heart

When life’s challenges keep
crashing onto me
like tidal waves that brutally
seem to take it all away

Please keep my smile safe for me
So I can always find it back with you


Rocking Tears

Tears drop down
while Metallica’s
‘Nothing else matters’
is on the radio

Those free flowing
rocking tears
that know love so deeply
that they don’t care about
what others
may think no more
as the only truth
that matters
is in the heart

Tears that rock
for they miss you so much
They could shout it
over rooftops
Raw and powerful
How much they love you

They laugh and ache
and dance and scream
those rocking tears


The Healing Waters Of Poetry

When the pain of missing you
becomes almost unbearable
and is like a knife that pierces
my chest
When my mind can only think
in miles that lie between us
in words that haven’t been said
When my eyes only see
a big ocean before me
that separates two continents
and my heart cries yearning tears
then I dive into the healing
waters of poetry
to be together with you
in flowing words of love


I’m Still Holding On

A day that feels like a heavy stone
I try to lift it
But it falls out of my hands
The whole world rests on my shoulders
And I can’t get my feet off the ground
to dance
The tears are stuck in my heart
They don’t want to flow through my eyes
I try to write but the words don’t want to move
A ship of poetry that sinks with its poetess on it
And yet, my darling, as I promised
you, myself
I’m still holding on to love


Lost In Lisbon

Rain in sun shiny Lisbon
Wherever I go my tears follow me
I try to seek you in my words,
in every corner, every street,
in the movement of the city
the flow of the river,
in shop windows,
in wine and in fado, in poetry

And I know, I won’t find you there
for first, I have to find you within
to see you without
But sometimes, there is just
this big sea of tears between us
That makes me float away from myself and thus
from you


A Restless Seeker

There are moments that are perfect
when I feel you so strongly with me
as though you were here
Your energy as a presence
around me and within
That makes me feel complete
and deeply in love

And there are moments when
energy is not enough
And I crave for your physical presence
To feel your arms, your skin
Your body
To hear your voice directly
To smell you and look into your eyes

And then I’m a restless seeker
Cut into two pieces
Soul pain that is physically felt
A body that is homesick
And I could scream, run
look everywhere
for you, my other half
The way Isis sought
her Osiris
The way Juliet grieved over
her Romeo
And then I’m just an earthly
character in our story
And can do nothing but
to wait for angel wings
to save me once again
as they let me rise above
the illusive world


To Another Universe

My head explodes with headaches
that blow up my mind
and suck me
into a black hole of nauseous pain

My love, with your arms around me
Let’s float away
to another universe
Where pain does not exist
And where together we count
the shooting stars
that fall as blessings upon us

And where what is One
will remain One always


Burning Pain

A fire burns me down
I am the Notre Dame
My structure falls apart
My tower collapses
Brutal, burning pain
rages through my temple
There is nothing left to do now
but to pray

But see, my altar of love
is still standing
My holy grail for you is saved
And if everything inside me is ashes,
rebuild me with your hands
let your love be my foundation
from which I can rise again


When Poetry Cannot Soothe

I miss you so much, my love
Sometimes it almost drives me nuts
This feeling of missing you
that no tear can cry off my heart

Though I always feel you with me,
it’s the look of your eyes
The embrace of your arms
that I want to see and feel
And that I miss so much

And I could try now to make
a beautiful poem of it
To take some metaphors
But sometimes reality
is not that poetic
And poetry cannot soothe
an ‘I miss you’


The Days Without You

My love, the days without you
are empty spaces,
I can’t fill up with words no more
The days without you
are like sand that slips through
my fingers,
happiness I can’t truly hold
Even the heavy, solid tears
that drop from my eyes
leak through

My days, my hands,
empty, bottomless
as they want to hold you